One of my highlights of 2017 was contributing a style post to one of DC’s rising dating blogs, LoveTailsKC.com, headed by my long time friend Kia Corrine. It also was a favorite of CHF readers. Here’s a look back on my take on dressing to attract the ‘sign’ of your dreams!
Originally posted on August 18, 2017 at LoveTailsKC.com
It seems like zodiac signs and dating go hand-in-hand. For some, a potential mate’s sign can be a deal breaker before they even reach a first date. If you’re one of those people, this post may not be for you. I’m here to talk about that crucial first date and how your date’s sign may give a clue to what you should be wearing to make a lasting impression.
All twelve zodiac signs are divided into four elements of nature: Fire, Earth, Air, and Water. These elemental designations are believed to shed light on the personality traits of those born under a particular sign.
FIRE signs of the zodiac are Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius. People who fall under these signs are all about energy. For them, words are nothing without action behind it. Leading and taking action for things that they want is second nature to them. We’ve seen these characteristics shine through President Barack Obama (Leo) and Grammy award-winning artist, Chance the Rapper (Aries).
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Men born under a fire sign are most compatible with a partner who falls under a water sign. Fire is most attracted to the sensitivity and passion that water awakens in them. All the signs that are within the fire element find it hard to resist women with confidence that takes pride in her appearance.
Rihanna (Pisces) exemplifies what a man of fire is looking for and she effortlessly reflects it in her style. For a dressier night out, choose a look that is feminine, yet edgy. Showing the right amount of skin has never hurt anyone. Just be careful to not choose a look that is too tight, too short, or too revealing . The goal is to exude confidence and passion, not easy and desperate.
EARTH signs of the zodiac are Taurus, Virgo, and Capricorn. Commonly known as the stubborn signs of the zodiac, these signs signify materialism. They are the most interested in the practicality of a relationship. They are grounded and methodical. Often the person with the most reasoning in chaotic situations. Two of my favorite men who fall under the Earth signs (other than my man) are Hip-Hop legend, Nas (Virgo) and Oscar Award-winning actor, Denzel Washington (Capricorn).
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If there is one word that sums up the style that is most attracts a man of the an earth sign, it is ‘femininity’. And, they often find it in mates who are born under a sign in the air element. Men of earth signs are grounded and often critically particular about the outward appearance of themselves and their mate.
Aside from her fantastic styling as Olivia Pope, actress Kerry Washington’s (Aquarius) off-screen style is full of ladylike silhouettes, polished and proper. Remember, men whose zodiac falls within the earth element are methodical and prefers things to be in order. That includes his mate’s style. Choose looks with clean lines, tasteful color palettes, and accessorized with subtlety.
AIR signs of the zodiac are Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius. Communication is key for these signs of the zodiac. If you have ever dated one, you know that one of the flaws common among these signs is indecisiveness. They are literally comfortable with wherever the wind takes them. The air element signifies ideas. Clear communication and the sharing of ideas builds trust in a person that falls under this sign. Actors, Michael B. Jordan and Will Smith are two handsome men who are leading in the air sign category. I know Will is taken, but word on the street is Michael is looking for his Mrs. Right.
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As explained in the previous matchup, mates who fall under the air and earth element make the most compatible match. Now, we look at the style that is most attractive to a man born under the air element. His love interest must be intelligent and creative. Being a man of communication, he seeks someone that is stimulating and energetic.
Communication shows itself in many forms, one being an outward appearance. So, it should come as no surprise that men of the air element are attracted to style that is unique and fearless. UK Actress, Naomi Harris (Virgo) is not shy when it comes to style. If you are looking to spruce up your personal style with a Gemini, Libra, or Aquarian man in mind…it’s ok to push the limits. Add bold colors and prints to your look. Be careful not to overdo it! Understand what compliments your body and what pieces best complement one another.
WATER signs of the zodiac are Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces. I am a Scorpio, so if it’s one sign I know first hand it is this one. Water signs are all about emotion and passion. Most if not all of our decisions are made on emotion, when we love, we LOVE hard and expect the same in return. Another Water sign that I’m most familiar with is Cancer. It is shared by my mother, father, brother, and son. So, I can confirm through experience that Water signs share many of the same personality characteristics. Music mogul, Sean “P. Diddy” Combs (Scorpio) and Actor/Activist, Jesse Williams (Pisces) are two men under the water sign that have shown passion in their art and for their women (let’s save Jesse’s divorce for another time, shall we. Note: He was with his wife for over 13 years).
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I discussed the attraction between fire and water at the beginning of this post. Men born under the water element are most responsive to style that evokes passion. The sexier, the better. Sexy does not equal slutty. There is a line and these men respond accordingly.
Girls’ Trip actress, Regina Hall’s (Sagittarius) look is a perfect example of sexy as defined by a Scorpio, Cancer, or Pisces man. Keep his attention with the details. Choose a shoe that will carry the look. It saves you the headache of trying to overthink the rest of your ensemble.
First dates are meant to be fun and explorative, and so should the pre-game. This little guide is not to be strictly followed. It is to ease the anxiety and encourage you to get out of your style comfort zone. Feel free to include some of my tips with your personal style, because what’s most attractive to any man-no matter the sign-is authenticity. Be YOU, Love, and you’ll surely snag the right one.
To learn more about the compatibility about the elements, check out the links below.